Sweet Asexy Love

Where asexuals, grey-a's and our allies celebrate what makes our relationships awesome.

Misquote

I’v been getting a bunch of e-mail recently about a quote that was attributed to me on Tumblr. As most of you have surmised, the quote is fake (I won’t bother linking to it), someone’s idea of a way to attack the AVEN admods. Since this is an issue that’s on people’s minds, I want to make it clear what I DO think.

I think the admods are awesome. I also think that, like all elected governing bodies, the admods are far from perfect. They’re a bunch of people who have volunteered to take time out of their busy lives to do hard, generally thankless work because they believe that there should be a safe place out there for asexuals, grey-a’s, demisexuals and our allies to understand ourselves and our relationships. That’s why I’m doing this work, as far as I can tell it’s a vision (along with our visibility work) that everyone in the community shares. Because they’ve put hard work into this vision they have earned my gratitude and respect.

I know that most of you out there share this sense of respect, and a few of you out there don’t. That’s cool. I’ve been frustrated at authority plenty of times in my life, and I know that me arguing with you won’t change that. As an experience activist, let me offer you a few words of advice:

Systems accept disruption, but only in the service of optimization. The most powerful thing that you can do to change a system is to hold up a way to make it better. That won’t look like insults, attacks, or reactions, it’ll look like a better way to create a safe space for asexuals, grey-a’s, demisexuals and our allies to understand ourselves and our relationships. If you’ve got that, you can prove that it works, and you can prove your integrity by avoiding petty fights, then you’re in a great position to change things. Before long the admods will probably join you, and I will too.

  1. vladdraculea reblogged this from avenpt
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  3. writingfromfactorx reblogged this from asexylove and added:
    clarification! I’m glad...statement on this coming out now. Given a message I’ve gotten...
  4. hawkelf reblogged this from lizziegoneastray and added:
    Well, I feel much better now that that’s basically straightened out.
  5. nextstepcake reblogged this from lizziegoneastray and added:
    I can confirm that that is indeed DJ, and through DJ’s tumblr (although it’s usually just used for Sweet Asexy Love Day,...
  6. avenpt reblogged this from asexylove and added:
    -from David Jay
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